HOW TO BE HAPPY

There is an adage-"Laugh"! "The Whole World Laughs With You, and Weep! You'd Weep Alone" Happiness breeds Happiness. Here are some important tips on how to be happy eternally.

                      Cultivate the habit and hobby of thinking positive all the time   Don't  for a moment let a single negative thought overwhelm your mind. Keep all worries at bay. Surround yourself with optimistic or positive thinking people.   

               

                       Practice silence-whenever you're angry. Meditate through focusing on your breathing. Or read something light such as comics or jokes to lift your moods. But never snack on junk food such as noodles, Pizzas and /Burgers, Bakery products and sweets. Snack on  healthy fruits such as Oranges, Sweet Lime, Apples, Blue berries, Black berries, Guavas, Papaya, walnuts, peanuts etc which are highly nutritious.

 

   Health is Wealth. Hence do regular exercise at least for half an hour daily such as Brisk walking, running, playing Shuttle Badminton, Ping Pong/Table Tennis or even  caroms, which make you feel good about yourself due to release of bodies natural  endorphins chemicals/painkillers and mood elevators. Once you've good health you can be happy and it works wonders for you and increases your level  of confidence in yourself and makes you feel on top of the world.  

                              

                        Try to have good interpersonal relations with every one. In order to do this cultivate the habit of appreciating others selflessly for whatever they are worth at-be their good looks, be their talents, their sense of humor  or job achievements etc. Once you've smooth relations with everyone around and make everyone your friend, popularity comes to you on its own. Make others feel worthy and important. That is  the Master Key to your success and happiness. Use compliments liberally  

                      

                     Try to be financially independent. Be it employment through self or job in some organization. This also boosts  your confidence and in turn contributes to your overall health and wellbeing. Many Banks are giving loans to promote self employment and The Government and  Many NGO's etc are offering training in different skills such as communication, interpersonal and entrepreneurial and job skills. Hence, shed lethargy and take immediate positive steps in accordance with my tips as said above.  

                                        

                  Read at least one Standard  News Paper daily which is popular locally. Improve your English by reading English News Papers and Magazines etc. English has become a Global and widely  spoken common language. Without knowledge of Good English you're nowhere. News Papers keep you abreast of what is happening around you. Cultivate Critical Thinking or analytical thinking  habit consciously. Try to keep things in perspective. View a particular topic or thing from several angles and analyze. Good Reasoning abilities are a must in majority of job recruitment drives now a days. Having knowledge about various things and subjects again boosts your confidence levels which in turn leads to your happiness.Cultivate friendship with learned people and learn many new things from them which you weren't aware of hither to before.Cultivate  good listening skills and give the  other person chance to speak. After he finishes with his talk and he asks for your opinion/suggestions then only you open your mouth. cultivate the habit of empathy. Stand in his shoes and view things from his side although you may not agree with him on that point. Your reputation as a good person gains prominence and you'd've much less enemies than before.   

       

                  Never feel Jealous of anyone. Everyone has talent or something good about him or her. Encourage the other persons good qualities and let him thrive, bask and bathe in those qualities, which make him happy. If you make other people happy,you also would feel happy. Thus, happiness breeds  happiness. 

                

                 Stand for a good cause and become part of groups that promote such good causes. Such as Natural Calamities Relief camp,  Part of Rights Activists of Differently abled,  Human Rights Activist, Womens' Rights Activist, Environment Activists , Children's Rights Activists, charities and so on and so forth.  Then You'd become a great admirable personality. Universal Brotherhood should be the ultimate motto of every one. We should rise above all petty considerations such as caste, creed, religion rich poor divide, race and strive for their  total eradication from this planet. Selfless service to fellow human being is equal to service to God.    

               

                 Believe in some supernatural being and offer your daily prayers for fulfilling your possible wishes. Talking to God enlivens your spirits and you'd feel relieved of your mental burden. If you don't've trustworthy people to share your problems with- either share them with God and wish for their solution or jot down all your problems and their possible solutions in a Journal. Problem writing journal does good to your mind.  

                          

                           Have targets either in your academics or jobs. First keep small goals- one at a time. After attaining your goal, then set a bigger goal, which ultimately helps you in gaining self confidence and  reaching your set target. Excel in whatever you take up. Perfection is not required. In order  to excel give your 100% to what ever your goal is.     

                    

                      Have good sense of humor  and laugh a lot. Read Good Jokes or view tongue in cheek cartoons. Approach everything in your life with joy de vivre. Being able to laugh at yourself or at life's ironies is a good self image booster. Never laugh at people for their defects for no body is perfect. Laugh with them.

 

                                     Welcome constructive Criticism from people who care for you regarding your qualities be they personality  disorders or your shortcomings in your work etc, hear them patiently and try to overcome your shortcomings in respect of your work  or other negative traits and  ultimately excel in them by overcoming those negative qualities/traits in you. Don't develop animosity towards people who constructively point out your shortcomings. Improve upon your drawbacks where you fall short and excel in it. You'd be liked by everyone around.  Don't try to pick faults of others and such things make people avoid you like a pest. Try to be diplomatic. Unless it is extremely necessary don't tell lies. Forget and forgive people for their bitter remarks against you."To err is human and To forgive is divine ". Developing animosity toward the person who hurt would not help and make your mind agitated and would seek retaliation against the person who hurt you. According to Dale Carnegie "Unjust Criticism is often a disguised Compliment". So forget and forgive him. You'd be happy with no bitterness against the causer of the hurt to your mind or body.

                           

                   Meditation and Breathing techniques such as Nadi Shodhana Pranayama improve your physical and mental strength/powers. Practice Nadi Shodhana or Anuloma Viloma Pranayama in the following way. By closing your right  nostril with your right thumb inhale to 4 counts through your left nostril and hold for two counts and  close your left nostril with your right hand ring finger and exhale through your right nostril to 4 counts. Repeat for at least for 3 minutes in the beginning and gradually increase it for 10 minutes or more.  Gradually increase the counts; but inhale, hold breath and exhale should always be in 1:1/2:1 ratio. After you attain perfection in this try for 6:3:6. Practice this breathing technique slowly and rithmatically. You would feel definitely relaxed and at peace with your self. If you want success in a particular thing, create a visual picture of your success in your mind about achieving that goal and to your surprise actually you'd meet with success in regard to that goal. Thus make achieving success in all your chosen goals and targets a regular habit and there would be no looking back for you from then on. You'd be awarded and rewarded for your successful achievements, which in turn contribute   to your happiness.

.                     Have a  daily Good Night's sleep of 8 hours at least. If you can indulge, take an afternoon siesta of one hour.  According to a recent statistical and scientific study- afternoon naps raise your overall IQ and keeps your mind very sharp all through the day besides keeping you physically active all day long. Good Sleep increases your memory power.    

            If you've some health problems such as Hyper Tension, Diabetes etc keeping yourself happy and bidding an adieu to worries  keep your B.P and Sugar levels normal. You'd be less susceptible to Heart Attacks, Strokes etc. Drink   at least 3 cups of Green Tea, as it is packed with  rich anti oxidants and it reduces your  oxidative stress, It works as an anti aging beverage and improves your immunity and  is a  surefire stress buster. Also, take cod liver oil supplements daily, which have omegas 3 fatty acids and protect you from heart  attacks.  Non Vegetarians can eat fish to boost the intake of Omega 3 and omega 6 fatty acids and reduce Heart Attacks.

 

  Death or divorce from your loved ones shouldn't be allowed to break your heart and gloomy and sullen all the time. With passage of time their memories wane. Time is the best healer of all sorts of  mental wounds. 

                       All those people who are not optimists should follow my pearls of wisdom in the above tips given by me and embrace eternal happiness. 

" My Best Wishes To You All"

 

Ms.Nirmala P.Rao (13 th October 2012)

Legal Expert and Political Analyst..

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